Never blame anyone in your life / 在你的有生之年請不要指責任何人

June 19, 2012 § 1 Comment

Never blame anyone in your life

Good people give you happiness

Bad people give you experience

Worst people give you a lesson

And best people give you memories

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Now if you please, just pause for a moment and think of anyone you wish to contribute gratitude to. It seems we are not practising gratefulness as much as we should. The world would be such a wonderful place if we do this every day.

Thank You, twice

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在你的有生之年請不要指責任何人

好人會帶給你歡樂

壞人會帶給你經驗

最爛的人會給你上一堂課

而最棒的人將給你無限的回憶

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那麼現在,請將身邊所有的事物放下並好好地想一想你現在有甚麼想要感謝的人。在目前忙碌的日子裡我們似乎忘記要時常感恩,甚至是該如何感恩了。試想,如果我們每天都花一點時間好好地對周遭的事物存一點感激,那麼這世界將會變得多麼美好?!

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We are what we believe to be /相信自己就是肯定自我

May 29, 2012 § 2 Comments

Acknowledge the power of the mind: we are what we believe to be.

I have received a valuable gift from my most recent and also the last training session: a quote from Mahatma Gandhi. This is what he said:

Man often becomes what he believes himself to be.
If I keep on saying to myself that I cannot do a certain thing, it is possible that I may end by really becoming incapable of doing it.
On the contrary, if I have the belief that I can do it, I shall surely acquire the capacity to do it even if I may not have it at the beginning.

These words struck me for a while, as they ring very true with me. Ever since childhood I have hold certain core beliefs about myself that are still carried forward to today. Some good, some not so good. And these beliefs have absolutely affected how I am and do things today. These wise words from Gandhi are just another gentle reminder to know what I am worth and keep good faith in myself more!!

I hope they also mean the same to you.

Mohandas K. Gandhi

Mohandas K. Gandhi (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

不要低估心靈的力量:相信自己就是肯定自我。

最近在我最後一節的輔導受訓過程中我收到了一份非常珍貴的禮物:聖雄甘地的至理名言。那些話是這麼說的:

通常當一個人相信自己是個甚麼樣的人,他往往就成為那樣的人。
如果我一直對我自己說我沒辦法完成某件事情,到最後我可能真的對那件事情變得無能為力。
反之,如果我認定我絕對能做到,就算剛開始毫無頭緒,我之後一定能擁有達成任務的本領。

這些話就像是給我得當頭喝棒,因為這說得實在是太正確也太符合現在的我了。從小我就持有著特定的信念,至今還是很深刻地影響我。有些好,而有些不怎麼好。但甘地的這些智慧妙語也適時地提醒我去肯定自己的長處,並且要保持自己對自己的信心!

希望這些話也能令你受益匪淺。

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Evil speech is the sharpest sword / 惡口是最銳利的劍

May 17, 2012 § 4 Comments

One day, Buddha was preaching at Jetavana Monastery. Brahmā came down to Earth from Heaven to seek guidance from Buddha.

 “What is the sharpest sword, the most vicious poison, the fiercest fire, and the darkest night?” asked Brahmā.

 Buddha replied, “Evil speech is the sharpest sword, desire is the most vicious poison, afflictions is the fiercest fire, and ignorance is the darkest night”.

Very true and wise words… This teaching allows me to reflect my past, and resonates strongly with my perception of life, which was slowly shaped through the journey of my life…

When one’s speech is harsh and mean, especially when it comes from your beloved ones or people you care so much and have respect for, it hurts more than a stabbing knife. Unlike scratches or bruises, such mental wounds cannot be easily healed or reversed. It seems inevitable to come across people behaving this way, or is it just too easy to express foully in the heat of the moment? At least we can always be the first ones to be cautious when we speak, and not to cause distress towards others. If you have never encountered such a person in your life, you are probably one of the luckiest people in the world.

Desire comes from greed, which seems to be the root of all evil. When we do or could not get what we wanted, we become angry, or we become sad. It is a hole that can never be filled; because we are always looking for things that are better or prettier. We seldom know it, but what follows is the suffering and anguishes of “why can’t I…” or “if only…” etc, when we are not satisfied with what we currently have. Do we even realize how amazingly we could endure such unhappiness since we never stop asking these questions? I must say I highly admire people who are easily contented with their current status. They always seem a lot happier about because they have made the choice not to worry about too much other things.

Upon writing this, I feel greed also sets the basis for afflictions we have today. We are constantly worried about things in our lives, regardless if we have what we wanted or not… We can be happy and content, yet this may be short-lived as we seem to have more capability to dwell on the things that makes us angry or sad rather than staying focused and appreciating on what we already have or achieved. I guess underneath the worrying we brought to ourselves is the fear of not being good enough, or rich enough or pretty enough… What is the point of endless worrying when no one can fully cherish what they have until it is gone? We kept on putting these burdens on ourselves unconsciously that slowly grows into agony and making ourselves rather miserable.

Without acknowledging all of the above, it is as if we were blinded by our own egos that can never be satisfied with oneself. The metaphor of expressing ignorance as the longest dark night is just so right and so powerful. I really couldn’t think of any other ways to put it. However, when there is the night, there also comes the day. I am absolutely grateful to have come across the teachings of Buddha in the early stages of my life, and I do anticipate the day when I become enlightened also.

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有一天,佛陀在祇園精舍說法,大梵天主從天而降,來到佛陀座前,向佛陀請法。

梵天問:「甚麼是最銳利的劍?甚麼是最劇烈的毒藥?甚麼是最凶猛的火?甚麼是最黑暗的夜?」

佛陀答:「惡口是最銳利的劍,貪欲是最劇烈的毒藥,煩惱是最凶猛的火,無明是最黑暗的長夜。」
  

這真是充滿智慧的真理。佛陀的這則教誨讓我反省了從前的我;從以前這麼一路走來,這法語也同時與我目前的人生觀起共鳴…

當別人說話很刻薄又很無情的時候,尤其是來自你身邊最親近或是最在乎、最敬仰的人,那種痛往往比一般的刀劍傷得更身。而這種心理的傷痛往往很難平復,不像平時刮傷瘀青等皮肉之苦。我們這一生中似乎難免會遇到這種人,還是說在衝動時更容易說出傷人的話呢?但至少我們可以從自己開始言行謹慎,除了可以減少是非也能夠避免去傷害他人。如果你這一生中從來沒有遇到別人用言語傷害你,那麼你就是這世界上少數的幸運兒了。

貪婪,似乎是萬惡之源,導致欲望。當我們少了什麼或是沒辦法得到什麼時,我們失意、生氣、難過等等。我們不斷地想要得到更多、更好、更美,因此欲望這空洞是永遠也填不滿的。我們很少明白在這空洞帶給我們有多少的苦悶及不滿: “為什麼我不能…?"或者“假如可以…?"也許很少人發現我們忍受這種不滿足的苦有多強,但是我們卻曾未停止問這些問題呀!我必須承認我非常敬佩那些知足常樂的人。正也是因為他們做出了不去奢望太多的緣故,他們比一般人來的要快樂許多。

寫到這我的感觸很深,我同時也覺得貪欲是導致一切苦惱的開始。不管我們現在有了什麼或是缺了什麼,我們總是不能停止煩惱。當然,我們也能夠體會快樂,但是時間都不長久。比起感恩或專注於人生許多的美好,我們似乎更執著於那些讓我們不快樂的事情。我想在這煩惱的掙扎中似乎透露著一種害怕,害怕我比別人差、不夠有錢、不夠漂亮等等。但在還沒擔心完之前若不懂得珍惜現在,那麼就只有失去當下的後悔。我們時常無意識地增加自己心靈上的負擔,煩悶到一定程度的時候只會讓我們更折磨自己。

無法意識到這些問題的我們,就如同被自己的自我所盲目一樣。沒有什麼比無知更可怕,而用最漫長的夜晚來形容無明實在是太貼切了太強大了。我實在是找不出更好的比喻。但既然有黑夜,那麼一定也有白天。我真的非常感恩我在很小的時候就接觸佛法,而我也非常期待當我開悟得道的那天。

We hold the key to our own happiness / 快樂只掌握在自己的手裡

May 4, 2012 § 2 Comments

Thank God it is Friday!! This is the day where I can take things slowly and prepare to enjoy the upcoming weekend 😀 I have had some ups and downs ever since the beginning the of this year but today has been pretty good for me; mostly due to the wise words I have recently been forwarded to. And I feel I’d be really selfish if I do not share this around:

星期五萬歲!!這是我可以開始放慢步調的一天並且好好地準備迎接週末的到來 ^0^ 自今年開始我就已經歷了一些波折,雖說不算太嚴重但也把它們當作是給我的一重歷練吧!但今天目前都過的還算順利,心情也得到了某些啟發與平靜,這都要歸功於近日友人轉發的生活至理名言呢~假如我不在此分享的話那麼我就太過自私了!(原文是英文,而你所看到的中文翻譯是我心境最徹底的呼應): 

 

  • Make peace with your past so it doesn’t spoil your present.

      過去的就讓它過去了,不要讓往事破壞我們所擁有的現在

  •  What others think of you is none of your business.

      別人怎麼看你其實都不關你的事

  • Time heals almost everything, give time some time.

      時間近似可以治癒一切,你只需要給時間一點時間

  • No one is the reason of your happiness except you yourself.

      除了你自己,沒有其他人是能讓你快樂的原因

  • Don’t compare your life with others, you have no idea what their journey is all about.

      不要拿你的生活與他人比較,因為你從來都不知道別人是怎麼走過來的

  • Stop thinking too much, it is alright not to know all the answers.

      不能得到所有的答案並不是世界末日,不需要想太多

  • Smile, you don’t own all the problems in the world.

      微笑吧!世界上所有的問題並不是全都歸於你

Shakyamuni Buddha statue at Fo Guang Shan Budd...

I must say I really adore the wisdom of the 2nd and 4th dictums. Both resonate with the teachings of Śākyamuni  Buddha so well and I can totally relate to them!! We are the ones that control our lives; I am the one that controls my life. More candidly, I am the one to decide if I let other people influence my life, my thoughts and my way of doing things. Writing this entry can be very empowering which also reminded me a quote by Venerable Cheng Yen: “To be angry is allowing other’s mistakes to punish you”.  Once again, the key to make yourself happy is only you!!

我必須說第二及第四句實在是讓我超感動的。兩者都與釋迦牟尼佛的教誨呼應,也是另我有感觸最深的。我們是我們自己生活的主宰; 我是我自己人生的主宰。坦白地說,決定誰能影響我的一生及我的言行舉止的也只有我。我在寫這篇網誌時我似乎又找回了自我及活力,同時我也想到的證嚴上人的一句話:「生氣就是拿別人的錯誤來懲罰自己。」再一次,掌握自己的快樂只有你!

We are our own SUNSHINE / 我們就是自己的陽光

April 24, 2012 § Leave a comment

Dear all,

A friend of mine sent me this lovely poem and I’d like to share it with you all It is an important message that all of us need!

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Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass, it’s about learning to dance in the rain.
生活不是等著暴風雨過去,而是學會在風雨中跳舞

If you feel sad for burning it in your heart,then just smile and let it go.
如果放在心裡會覺得難過,那麼就請微笑著放手吧。

Smile and keep being fabulous are the best ways to get revenge on your haters. They hate to see you like that.
對討厭你的人最好的反擊就是
~保持微笑和光芒四射,因為他們最不希望看到這樣的你!

Life has its ups and downs. You will never fully appreciate the ups unless you have some downs.
人生充滿了起起落落,沒有在低處歷練過的人,也無法享受高處的快感。

Wherever you go, no matter what the weather, always bring your own sunshine.
無論去哪兒,什麼天氣,記得帶上自己的陽光。

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